Aug 24, 2017 | Uncategorized
Where I grew up there was no shortage of anger. No blame, no shame, it was what it was. I know I wasn’t the easiest child, and it gave me a lot of opportunity (and inspiration) to learn about anger, both my own and others’. Anger was scary because...
Aug 17, 2017 | Uncategorized
I hear it so often when I am talking to my people about their struggles, “Pam, I am just SO TIRED.” So tired of having to… be the strong one. carry all of the weight. hold it all together. be the bigger person. My friends just WANT IT TO GET EASIER....
Aug 10, 2017 | Uncategorized
I talk about blame a lot because it is such a common defense mechanism, hard wired from birth it seems to protect our fragile sense of being good enough, feeling “safe”. We do it often without even realizing that we do it, it can be really subtle, where...
Aug 4, 2017 | Uncategorized
Trusting life instead of worrying doesn’t mean you stop working your ass off, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t address the things that need your attention. I have found that this is a sticking point for many, as it was for me for awhile, so I want...
Jul 27, 2017 | Uncategorized
You know the old adage, you can’t try and change the person you love? That is true, we have to figure out how to love them exactly where and how they are. And that is hard and sometimes leaves us feeling trapped and dis-empowered (aka, unhappy). BUT, what we can...
Jul 21, 2017 | Uncategorized
I was driving in San Jose today, on a In-N-Out run, and a classic rock station was on. The first song that come on was Take the Long Way Home by Supertramp. That song was pure joy from my childhood. Everyone in my family loved that song, and whenever it came on, no...
Jul 13, 2017 | Uncategorized
We all have a right to our feelings and we need to respect those feelings, both our own and others – but we need to hold ourselves and others to skillfully respond/handle those emotions in a constructive way. Skillfully navigate our feels by owning how we...
Jul 5, 2017 | Uncategorized
Last week I wrote about how respecting feelings is essential for health — well, there’s an equally important other side of this equation, and that is about boundaries. This is exponentially harder than simply respecting feelings, because it relies on our...
Jun 27, 2017 | Uncategorized
We cannot be healthy without respecting our feelings, and we can’t have healthy relationships without respecting the feelings of the people in our lives, and having them reciprocate by respecting our feelings. And yet, this is something that I find to be so...
Jun 21, 2017 | Uncategorized
You know when you see a basketball player go on a hot streak, sinking three after three in an unbelievable, super human feat of accuracy and consistency? In Find More Strength, I talk a lot about the 5 pillars — 5 practices to help us build inner strength, day...
